Monday, 27 July 2015

How to deal with... FOMO!!

FOMO, otherwise known as the fear of missing out has become very commonplace in my generation. Probably, because at my age you know that you are soon to be an adult and do not want to miss any opportunity whereby you can be youthful for a few hours. I believe a lot of it has to do with the fact that we now have technology, whereby we can receive Snapchats or look at peoples' instagram posts whereby our friends may be together having a great time, whilst we lay on our bed, staring at our ceiling and wondering what we should do with ourselves.
Recently, there have been times when I have felt a slight disconnectedness from my friends in which I only really blame myself for in the form of regret. Friends go on trips to London and go to concerts, and obviously have gotten so fed up with me saying that I didn't want to go that I no longer get invited. The thing is, I have grown up now, and even if going on a train to a big city, with lots of people, and an underground system that too me seems like a labyrinth of colourful lines, gives me a nervous uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach. I'm fine, I've grown up; I can deal with it.
But, this regret, this disconnectedness, is nothing more then me feeling like I am missing out, missing out on a great memory and experience. However, there are ways that you can suppress those feelings of FOMO, to make you become a better and more approachable person, because the worst thing about FOMO is that it is unattractive, makes you seem jealous and uninterested in what your friends or family may have been up to. So... here are my tips:
  1. Be nice to your friends and interested in what they are up to, if you show your interest maybe you will get invited next time, and if that is too hard for you to seem happy for your friends because you are not with them, switch off. Turn any social media off that may be making you feel jealous and find something else to do with your time other then thinking about it.
  2. Have me time, it is possible to have fun in your own company. Go for a hike along a local footpath, or sit in a coffee shop with a magazine and ingest the peace. Sometimes that is all you need to learn that every so often, spending time alone is okay, and rather tranquil.
  3. Indulge in your favourite hobby, everyone has a hobby that they sometimes find little time to indulge in, but if you have time to worry about what someone else is doing, you certainly have time to be doing something for yourself. Whether it is pottery painting, baking or just reading, spend a few hours nourishing that interest. You will feel so much better after, I promise.
  4. If you are struggling to find a hobby that interests you, find something new to do. There are plenty of things to do and places to see that you haven't done or seen before. Whether it is just watching a new TV series or learning latte art, you may find a something that you love to do, don't give up.
  5. If all else fails, talk to someone; tell your friends that you feel a certain disconnection to them, and that you feel as though you are missing out. Someone will understand, and more then likely have felt this way also. Just talking about that topic may give you some closure on why you have been missed out of group events, or may even just let your friends know that you would like to be involved next time, because even the bestest of friends may have not realised that you wanted some involvement.
I hope this helps you.
Toodles,
EmilyBelleBlogs x

Wednesday, 22 July 2015

Words

Words, there are many of them, in fact there are about one million words in the English vocabulary, around 829,000 of which are in the Oxford Dictionary. I don't know all of them. Much like you will not know all of them either. However, there also words cropping up that aren't in the English dictionary, made up words, slang, lingo.
We are all made up of words, non-scientifically of course, because really we are made up of chemicals and particles. But it's strange how just one word can either really mean something to somebody, or sometimes really hurt somebody.
We as humans get labelled, labelled a lot. British schools aren't renowned for having cliques, and words like jocks and geeks floating around, describing other groups of people. However, cliques exist everywhere, some of which do not even make sense.
The other day whilst scrolling through my instagram I noticed a post that made me confused. It was a selfie (which is another trendy word) of a young girl, whom I assumed was the owner of said instagram account. It was captioned "I have decided not to be a pastel anymore". From my knowledge, pastel is a form of colour, such as light pink, sky blue and lilac. However, people are starting to use the word "pastel" as an adjective to describe themselves. How can a person be "A colour having a soft, subdued shade"? It doesn't make sense, but it seems to me adjectives used on the internet to describe oneself or another do not even have to make sense anymore.
As I said, everyone is labelled. Everyone is labelled both positively and negatively. Everyone is judged. Nobody can be who they want without being judged anymore. I used to find myself stuck as to knowing who I am. Was I girly? Was I sporty? Was I adventurous? But that's when I realised that I simply didn't care. If I am happy why does it matter who I am?
Sometimes, I feel as though these people who are "pastels" simply can't be enjoying life or being who they want to be. Sure, I could be judging. But, no one is the same. We don't all need to buy the cutest bath bomb from Lush or body scrub from Soap&Glory to fit in. We should buy things and even do things that make us happy, forgetting the fact that maybe there is a specific word that could label us, and that we might not be conforming to that by buying or doing something different to that expectation.
What gets me even more thoughtful by the prospect of words being who we are, is that we use such words to describe ourselves. We call ourselves "lazy", "perfectionists" or even "pastels". But why?
I am Emily, there is no one person with the same interests or life that I live to my knowledge, but I am happy. That is how everyone should be. We shouldn't be influenced by the media to be someone we are not.
Just be you. Be the person you want to be, not what anyone else says you have to be.
Toodles,
EmilyBelleBlogs x

Friday, 17 July 2015

Summer Holidays!

Hello Everybody!
Finally, after a very long and challenging school year it is the summer holidays. I don't like making promises, as I seem to be terrible at keeping them. But, I sincerely hope that I can get this blog up and running again over the summer.
This year has been a very busy and slightly overwhelming one, and I think by the end of 2014 I stretched myself a little too far with this blog, which, if I'm honest, made me fall out of love with it. But, with a fresh, clean design, and a slightly more relaxed mind I am hoping that my blog can go back to how it was this time last year. I also hope that you can all forgive me for my shambles of a 2015.
I don't really have many plans for this summer, but I think that my content will be much more lifestyle based than it used to be. I may also throw in a few outfit posts here and there as I have really got into fashion recently, however beauty is something that I have a lot less interest in then I did before. Probably because makeup tends to make my face feel gross in the summer.
I should probably talk about my school year, I think most would say they hated their time in year 12, but if I said that I would be lying. Sure, it has been tiring, hard and sometimes a little lonely because there is little time to socialize, but some of the things I have done have been the best moments of my life.
In September I was voted Managing Director for a Young Enterprise company, this week we disbanded. I was sad to say goodbye to a group of people who are self-motivated and incredible. Don't get me wrong some of the group were very challenging to work with, but we were not only a company but a team, and had a very successful and brilliant year.
In January I was elected Head Student, this experience again has bought me many amazing opportunities, and working with the other head student team has been the best, and I look forward to working with them again next year.
The work of course has also been difficult, but with a lot of perseverance I have made it through the year. I hope that I have put enough work in to achieve good grades, because I know A2 will also be tough, but to get into a good uni will be incredible and totally worth the hard work that has been and will be put in.
Speak soon!
EmilyBelleBlogs x