FOMO, otherwise known as the fear of missing out has become very commonplace in my generation. Probably, because at my age you know that you are soon to be an adult and do not want to miss any opportunity whereby you can be youthful for a few hours. I believe a lot of it has to do with the fact that we now have technology, whereby we can receive Snapchats or look at peoples' instagram posts whereby our friends may be together having a great time, whilst we lay on our bed, staring at our ceiling and wondering what we should do with ourselves.
Recently, there have been times when I have felt a slight disconnectedness from my friends in which I only really blame myself for in the form of regret. Friends go on trips to London and go to concerts, and obviously have gotten so fed up with me saying that I didn't want to go that I no longer get invited. The thing is, I have grown up now, and even if going on a train to a big city, with lots of people, and an underground system that too me seems like a labyrinth of colourful lines, gives me a nervous uncomfortable feeling in the pit of my stomach. I'm fine, I've grown up; I can deal with it.
But, this regret, this disconnectedness, is nothing more then me feeling like I am missing out, missing out on a great memory and experience. However, there are ways that you can suppress those feelings of FOMO, to make you become a better and more approachable person, because the worst thing about FOMO is that it is unattractive, makes you seem jealous and uninterested in what your friends or family may have been up to. So... here are my tips:
- Be nice to your friends and interested in what they are up to, if you show your interest maybe you will get invited next time, and if that is too hard for you to seem happy for your friends because you are not with them, switch off. Turn any social media off that may be making you feel jealous and find something else to do with your time other then thinking about it.
- Have me time, it is possible to have fun in your own company. Go for a hike along a local footpath, or sit in a coffee shop with a magazine and ingest the peace. Sometimes that is all you need to learn that every so often, spending time alone is okay, and rather tranquil.
- Indulge in your favourite hobby, everyone has a hobby that they sometimes find little time to indulge in, but if you have time to worry about what someone else is doing, you certainly have time to be doing something for yourself. Whether it is pottery painting, baking or just reading, spend a few hours nourishing that interest. You will feel so much better after, I promise.
- If you are struggling to find a hobby that interests you, find something new to do. There are plenty of things to do and places to see that you haven't done or seen before. Whether it is just watching a new TV series or learning latte art, you may find a something that you love to do, don't give up.
- If all else fails, talk to someone; tell your friends that you feel a certain disconnection to them, and that you feel as though you are missing out. Someone will understand, and more then likely have felt this way also. Just talking about that topic may give you some closure on why you have been missed out of group events, or may even just let your friends know that you would like to be involved next time, because even the bestest of friends may have not realised that you wanted some involvement.
I hope this helps you.